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构筑健康婚姻~~《纽约时报》婚前15问

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1. 我们要不要孩子?如果要,主要由谁来负责?
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2. 我们的家庭赚钱能力及目标是什么?消费观及储蓄观会不会发生冲突? 6 j6 _6 [; C2 K8 L& R
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3. 我们的家庭如何维持?由谁来掌握可能出现的风险?
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+ ]5 @% @$ U' k) _# |4. 我们有没有详尽地交换过双方的疾病史?包括精神上的. 0 T( a/ A3 ]. Y2 V
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5. 我们父母的态度有没有达到我们的预期?会不会给足够的祝福? ( U# n4 w1 E8 ?* o* s0 a
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6. 我们有没有自然、坦诚地说出自己的性需求、性的偏好及恐惧? - P" _0 G& Y+ D; g/ F' x: S( T8 O

" U  c% ]+ c0 T( v7. 卧室能放电视机吗?
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+ w% N7 u% L" P0 I) O0 _) F. [0 ?, v8. 我们真的能倾听对方诉说,并公平对待对方的想法和抱怨吗? 9 e+ `7 y0 f& c9 H; ^* ^
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9. 我们清晰地了解对方的精神需求及信仰吗?我们讨论过孩子将来的信仰问题吗? . S+ ]7 v3 p) |& u5 l+ S6 G
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10. 我们喜欢并尊重对方的朋友吗? % d  k2 T& J% f5 j# Z  z: Y
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11. 我们能不能看重并尊敬对方的父母?我们有没考虑到父母可能会干涉我们的关系? 4 n, n  c' U3 U
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12. 我的家庭最让你心烦的事情是什么?
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13. 我们永远不会因为婚姻放弃的东西是什么?
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" F% ?9 @: a# s14. 如果我们中的一人需要离开其家族所在地陪同另一个人到外地工作,做得到吗? ; M* ]2 v6 ?4 d2 h3 E, p

5 ]8 o( C( K  \8 E+ x2 W9 D15. 我们是不是充满信心面对任何挑战使婚姻一直往前走? ; p, {' o. J, T0 O' J

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Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other
6 q7 s0 m+ V8 D8 ^) _8 |& K+ I critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that
1 u4 v4 @3 \% i; d couples should consider asking:
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* V' E) [' C( R 1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
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2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?( t2 y5 T  ?2 n6 [' T, h

8 l6 O8 a% V$ D& l8 w' f$ ]; z 3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
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/ B1 I/ s) T, k$ T+ i; r9 T 4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental? ( L- s! q" B" |- f, d: ?5 K6 J

2 h6 D/ \" l8 `' _9 y 5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
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6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
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* k' p3 m: X. v' @. L 7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
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8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
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- \3 ]& X% j/ m" g0 a7 J 9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
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' G! ^; d9 W/ q- p 10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?8 C* j! W" K; j
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11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
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# |& p' n1 {+ |' L 12) What does my family do that annoys you?; n+ G- P- K$ v  J9 l
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13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?
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14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
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6 l' Q) O: N8 \6 W" S4 I' D 15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges

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简单说就是建立沟通和尊重的基础,是不是?
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