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构筑健康婚姻~~《纽约时报》婚前15问

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7 L# g) ?& _* [4 ?9 |. V4 s1. 我们要不要孩子?如果要,主要由谁来负责?
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2. 我们的家庭赚钱能力及目标是什么?消费观及储蓄观会不会发生冲突? 7 c( c$ S+ K: P3 y& l

- a1 ?8 k) r8 F4 M4 W/ g3. 我们的家庭如何维持?由谁来掌握可能出现的风险?
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2 f+ e" u& D& A+ H$ f7 v& o) X4 N4. 我们有没有详尽地交换过双方的疾病史?包括精神上的. 2 r. I+ P* t; e. q0 P" ?1 }( W

6 h  d+ f" l! [: \5. 我们父母的态度有没有达到我们的预期?会不会给足够的祝福? ) o; f! v# F. H) |
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6. 我们有没有自然、坦诚地说出自己的性需求、性的偏好及恐惧? , f  e$ j& A' _" D* x& c

( ?. W: z+ A- P% O. `* `5 b5 Q7. 卧室能放电视机吗? 7 J' j7 E3 Z6 y- f, ]
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8. 我们真的能倾听对方诉说,并公平对待对方的想法和抱怨吗? 5 k; m. r4 j! ?0 G! u

/ ]: N: w/ i. W* ]; Q9. 我们清晰地了解对方的精神需求及信仰吗?我们讨论过孩子将来的信仰问题吗? 2 O+ H. E; N  }: Y& a
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10. 我们喜欢并尊重对方的朋友吗? 7 z& f- A8 y/ |
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11. 我们能不能看重并尊敬对方的父母?我们有没考虑到父母可能会干涉我们的关系? 6 o! q: P8 [, F/ ^

: K/ m: d& Q4 {) I12. 我的家庭最让你心烦的事情是什么? 0 u' L2 v6 l; w& B7 n- x+ f6 Z

  }" o  U4 h2 i9 L13. 我们永远不会因为婚姻放弃的东西是什么?
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14. 如果我们中的一人需要离开其家族所在地陪同另一个人到外地工作,做得到吗?
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' \! M! X- {& j# e+ |$ c15. 我们是不是充满信心面对任何挑战使婚姻一直往前走? $ ^- R0 Z' \5 M$ ~' d

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Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other
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couples should consider asking: . H, p8 i# H& H' Q7 \- q3 g

& v: {$ H2 n, f* }# G 1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
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, ^6 A+ }4 c3 z- Y0 L1 x2 _" e$ X 2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
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* K# B0 z5 c/ [) Y 3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
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0 o: b+ T' i" j8 } 4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental? , C  a; ^- X+ Z: Q/ H" w
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5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?1 C) E. s6 O8 R- l5 E( `

& n! }3 }3 U* F( | 6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
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7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
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8 d' T& Z( g* X 8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?% E; p3 D0 A& g" Y. x7 S1 T

4 r( x6 P0 b+ q2 E! Z, e 9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?" F3 z, H, z6 w# i

$ p: |6 M6 O# d0 R0 w; v 10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?1 O8 b, \$ t8 p- i0 @% j
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11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
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12) What does my family do that annoys you?- j( d0 C4 `( I
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13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?1 _" a' U! i& b+ K* E
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14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
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$ N0 l& r" \% m1 I# } 15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges

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简单说就是建立沟通和尊重的基础,是不是?
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