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1. 我们要不要孩子?如果要,主要由谁来负责?
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2. 我们的家庭赚钱能力及目标是什么?消费观及储蓄观会不会发生冲突?
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3. 我们的家庭如何维持?由谁来掌握可能出现的风险? & r! u+ r' v; {6 X  r
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4. 我们有没有详尽地交换过双方的疾病史?包括精神上的.
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  ]6 v0 g# `: G8 v7 a6 S1 h8 @5. 我们父母的态度有没有达到我们的预期?会不会给足够的祝福? " ?& g( m1 o6 \- \% s( j
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6. 我们有没有自然、坦诚地说出自己的性需求、性的偏好及恐惧?
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9 E$ T$ ]% j, @0 R$ C. ^4 {+ N7. 卧室能放电视机吗?
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0 B' b; j# r0 k$ s8. 我们真的能倾听对方诉说,并公平对待对方的想法和抱怨吗? # s7 J# r( X( _$ ^. R8 h; y5 J

2 a5 e( Z5 G  ?! |% ]# n9. 我们清晰地了解对方的精神需求及信仰吗?我们讨论过孩子将来的信仰问题吗?
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10. 我们喜欢并尊重对方的朋友吗?
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3 v& f  t" b+ G11. 我们能不能看重并尊敬对方的父母?我们有没考虑到父母可能会干涉我们的关系? 4 y4 ]$ l$ b; D
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12. 我的家庭最让你心烦的事情是什么? 1 J: A) n# G" r! v3 y! v9 X; \
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13. 我们永远不会因为婚姻放弃的东西是什么?
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, c6 M4 K' \. C' m  x& E, v14. 如果我们中的一人需要离开其家族所在地陪同另一个人到外地工作,做得到吗?
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; A8 `* a& z1 H0 Y5 f3 s2 C15. 我们是不是充满信心面对任何挑战使婚姻一直往前走? : K& K3 |; Y! t

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7 J2 {6 W1 o, J$ Q+ G原文:
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Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other
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& u/ {: x* i, R# d7 Y couples should consider asking: ) I$ E. T4 F8 R% ^* N' W+ U
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1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?   x3 P" s$ _" E

. _; U# L! \0 a9 q 2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
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3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
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! Z! f% b6 H$ F' E7 }1 L" e# e 4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental? " x2 j: ^( ]  J& _: D7 Z: w; E" u

8 t9 F9 N' K" A" ~$ G 5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?
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6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
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4 E  s7 q2 E( `: u 7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?2 D, O# n+ o6 q9 |2 t/ k% D3 K: k, M

( Q: L; ]) P( n3 W+ ]  t 8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?0 y. z5 z5 ~) _. }6 a
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9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?( T9 A( c, v1 B( g2 u% U
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10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?4 r2 `3 ?/ [; C( ]3 K
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11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?7 d3 ~* ^! V  F1 j- R5 j7 @
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12) What does my family do that annoys you?
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3 U* D; K! n. ]5 g, I# e( F9 f 13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?+ N3 P  y! B1 L8 n" s
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14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
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  f; L( C' A/ m2 {5 [ 15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges

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( u5 m/ `; j  Y$ C% M9 }简单说就是建立沟通和尊重的基础,是不是?9 m# E* A* N0 A- S% E


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