[美国移民综合] 奥巴马写给女儿的信:停止在做的17件事

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这是一封细致入微的家书,没有作为父亲或者总统的“谆谆教导”,奥巴马给女儿的17条建议都非常具体、每一条都可以做得到,每一条都有益。! k4 J7 @" |; N, a8 @' O

: U5 B0 z' C. l$ j; J以下为正文——奥巴马写给女儿的信:停止在做的17件事) f! l6 Z/ s8 n% v/ ^
Life is short. It may feel like it takesforever sometimes, but the reality is that you live, and a short time later,you die. It happens so quickly, many people don’t even realize they had a lifeuntil it’s already over.
1 n0 E5 Z7 O9 }/ a% i7 l生命如此短暂。我们有时候觉得生命怎么也走不完,实际上,你现在活着,过不了多久,就会死去。人生真是转眼一瞬间的事情,很多人到临死前才意识到这一生已经结束。
) {+ o( M4 x/ y- B1 k% z; ]1.Stop Doubting Yourself停止怀疑自己
' X4 ]7 {$ ]5 WIf you don’t believe in yourself, nobodywill. Success starts in your mind, and if all you’re doing is putting yourselfdown and predicting failure, it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Insteadof doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and moresuccessful, you’ll spread it to everyone around you.
$ g4 K. r! c1 h: S0 E如果你自己都不相信自己,那没人会相信你。成功源于你的头脑,如果你所做的是不断地看扁自己,预言着未来的失败,这就真的会成为现实。与其怀疑自己,不如积极的考虑问题。不仅会让自己更加开心和成功,你还能够感染到周围的人。3 G$ w1 b3 f1 A4 h' h' P1 F" l( ?
2.Stop Being Negative停止消极  T( b8 Y. o5 l# N$ t. l) F
Now that you’re done doubting yourself,stop doubting others. You don’t like when people are critical of you, so stopbeing critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel – even ifyou have good intentions, people don’t like hearing negativity.7 Q/ H0 n% ~" G# p* a8 y# z; C: e
1 p4 Q% ?4 H$ I1 ?3.Stop Procrastinating停止拖延9 u% x' N& [- w! ^# X
I don’t feel like procrastinating right now– I’ll do it tomorrow. When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant. Whateveryou’re putting off doesn’t go away; resolve the problem, and move on. You’ll bemuch happier in the long run.) V6 C5 ]* ~  z& Q5 e# M/ ^( x2 P
. R+ P( ]+ d6 I0 a* b0 c4.Stop Being Mean不要那么刻薄! R1 S+ g: V4 ~
It’s completely possible to step onsomeone’s toes without meaning to – it happens all the time. There’s no need topile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stopbeing mean. If someone wrongs you, let it go. There’s no need to seek vengeanceunless that’s the type of person you want to be.. M4 y' j4 I: X+ u1 [0 p  F
' J& ]% z2 `. b) D5.Stop Eating Out不要在外吃饭
$ Q9 r, ~2 @6 ~+ bEating out is the biggest waste of money.Every so often it’s nice to treat yourself, but eating out for every meal isthe quickest way to drain your bank account. Learn how to cook at least ahandful of foods you enjoy: It’ll save you money, keep you healthier, andoccasionally impress people.
. S2 e9 \% M$ A/ A在外面吃饭真的非常非常的浪费钱。也许每次对于你而言都是一次犒赏,但每顿都在外面吃反而是花光积蓄的最快方式。至少也去学学怎么做一些自己喜欢的菜:既能省钱,还能让你更健康,还会让其他人眼前一亮。
5 ?3 t3 I6 d2 G, B5 w6.Stop Being Lazy不要再偷懒
0 }$ @, I0 y3 u; X) K6 M3 YLazy people are annoying – it’s likepulling teeth getting them to do anything. If I can’t do something as simple asgoing to a movie with you without having to factor in an hour of convincing youto get your lazy butt out of bed, I’d rather go alone. People have enoughtrouble motivating themselves; don’t make your friends and family waste theirvaluable energy motivating you as well.% E# G/ w& y2 C
" P& k7 c3 {# x! B, h7.Stop Complaining停止抱怨# o9 z4 d7 E3 ^. M1 F' S
We all have problems, and sometimes we needto vent to someone. That’s acceptable, but pay attention to how often you’reventing. We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get fromsomeone is negativity, it’s easier to cut them off than help, especially ifthey’re always complaining about the same things.+ v0 d$ X% g- Q! h: n& n
- i* [6 j0 {1 ~! v' K7 v8.Stop Being Selfish别再那么自私
; g: E0 P% _) x9 \0 ^2 YIf you only think about yourself, you’llsoon find yourself by yourself. Stop for a minute and think about how youractions affect other people – did you take the last cup of coffee from thebreak room? Refill it! Do you live with others? Don’t drink out the milkcarton. We share this world 100% of the time, so every action you take canaffect other people.
1 K3 ]1 K; E8 m! p' M& G& @如果你只考虑你自己,那么很快你会发现身边只剩下你自己。停一分钟想想你的行为会给别人带来什么影响吧——你是不是从休息室拿了最后一杯咖啡?再倒满呀!你是不是和别人合租?不要喝光所有的牛奶,这个世界是一个完全由大家分享的世界,你所做的每件事都会影响到别人。: ]( U4 i; X1 h0 b, Y4 l- d
9.Stop Wasting Time别再浪费时间% Q' y$ ]& y, [
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again:time is the most valuable resource we have. Don’t waste your time onunproductive things. If you want to explore the world’s dark corners, that’sgreat. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but Idon’t hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long-termgoals., X5 W' @, x7 K6 ?3 z  {1 p
虽然之前说过了,但我还想再说一遍:时间是我们拥有的最宝贵的资源,不要把时间浪费在没有意义的事情上面,如果你想探索这个世界的黑暗角落,很好。我也认识一些没有固定工作的一些自由职业者,但我不会以牺牲自己的短期长期目标为代价和他们出去玩乐。$ }; a% n# F/ P0 X  W
10.Stop Making Promises别再做承诺$ t' I) |& }' e: A0 H; n/ R
Always under-promise and over-deliver. Whenyou make a promise, you’re adding responsibility to your plate that, despiteall your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on. More often thannot, your promise is an absolute (i.e “I promise I’ll always love you”), and onlySith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply bethere when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.
/ F' a5 Z( h) y, e总是做承诺,总是做不到。每次做承诺都是不禁给自己增添了责任,无论你的出发点有多好,你都不可能完成所有的部分。大部分时候,你的承诺都太过绝对(比如“我发誓我永远爱你”),也只能在绝对环境中才能实现。与其用语言许下承诺,不如在别人需要你的时候出现,然后用行动达到他们的期望吧。6 W4 X3 ]/ h8 t$ ^. E9 P6 v
11.Stop Being a Pushover不要做老好人' C4 x% N# P% g3 q$ g7 n4 I" ?
We live in a capitalistic society in whicheveryone’s trying to sell us something. Everyone’s looking out for themselvesin one way or another, and you need to do the same. Stop putting yourself outbecause you’re too shy to say no.
" ^3 O/ H# r, c) c1 g9 T) i% V3 X1 j我们所处的社会,每个人都试图告知我们一些事情。每个人都从不同的角度去找寻着自己,你也需要,你要做的就是在合适的时候说不。
+ f( A: X- d( f1 e12.Stop Listening to Haters 不要听讨厌的人说话: v) f1 ?: s4 s; X3 Y  c. f/ Q3 [" S
No matter what you want to do in life,there’s always someone around to tell you why it can’t and won’t work. I cancome up with millions of reasons Twitter won’t work, and yet it’s one of themost popular social media sites on the web. My opinion didn’t stop Twitter’ssuccess any more than it convinced Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnettto stop acting. Why would you let someone’s opinion stop you?
9 e! O5 \: ?! q  E; L无论你想干什么,总会有人告诉你不要这么做,没有用的。我可以想出成百万条推特不实用的理由,但它还是互联网上最流行的社交网站之一。我的想法不会阻止推特的成功,就像你无法劝科比退出NBA或乔什·哈奈特不要当演员了一样,都毫无意义。那么为什么要让别人的想法阻止你呢?  T- p1 g6 j1 C7 ~4 a
13.Stop Being Wasteful 停止浪费0 `% L. K$ }% l+ B  M3 R
You don’t finish your meals,and away food instead. You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth,pouring precious water down the drain. You drive places you could easily walk,burning gasoline (a non-renewable resource)。 You are wasteful,and it needs to stop.  M6 I3 A# {( K# o" Q' x8 \( j
  Y' |3 N; V  L* Z: a% T% J% X14.Stop Littering 不要乱扔垃圾
5 g% }* j/ d+ e* V  q9 v6 DThe only thing I hate more than wastefulpeople are litterbugs. Litterbugs are my least favorite bug, and there are morethan you’d think. If you’ve ever thrown even one piece of gum, paper, candywrapper, cigarette butt, etc on the ground, you’re a disgusting litterbug, andyou should be ashamed of yourself. There are over 7 billion people in the world– if each person only throws one “innocent” piece ofgarbage on the ground, that’s 7 billion pieces of garbage littering a world in which nobody “did it”。6 J3 w+ n# g% C2 ~. ?6 V% f
唯一一个让我觉得比浪费的人更可恶的就是垃圾虫。垃圾虫最让我厌恶,而且永远多的让你数不清。如果你曾扔过一块口香糖,一张纸、糖果包装、烟蒂,那么你就是恶心的垃圾虫。你应该感到耻辱。世界上有超过70亿的人——如果每个人都无意识的扔一点垃圾,那么全世界就会变成70亿垃圾场,哪怕没有罪魁祸首。* I! n( ~  d( l8 v' U
Your one decision makes a HUGE difference,and I will not allow you to blow it off and walk around with your head heldhigh. You’re a litterbug, and it needs to stop immediately. You don’t get alifehack for this one, you filthy animal. Just stop – you already know how.
% d0 m. z: [- s! U你的一个决定会产生深远的影响,我不赞成你去大马路大声高呼。如果你是垃圾虫,那么就需要马上停止了,也许不会救命,但能让你不那么惹人厌。停止这一举动吧,你知道该怎么做的。: ~( x. `6 n- e
15.Stop Taking Everything Personally 别把每件事太往心里去
4 A, J4 x) k' A; X/ f: CPeople get offended about the strangestthings. Take Kendrick Lamar’s now-infamous verse on “Control” thissummer: he called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he’s betterthan (and he’s right)。 The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushedto their mics to record a response. The thing is, all K-Dot said is he’s thebest rapper. Everyone took it personally, and that’s exactly what he was goingfor. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and ifyou’re easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.7 k& b. ]" U" {# |# ]+ u6 Y% h7 S
人们会因为一些奇怪的事情感到被侵犯。就拿Kendrick Lamar这个夏天备受争议的歌曲《Control》为例:他在歌词中挑衅了一些他认为比他弱的说唱歌手(的确是这样),一石激起千层浪,整个说唱界的歌手都蜂拥录歌作为回击。重点在于,所有的人都认为自己是最好的说唱者,每个人都更看重自己,这就是他的目的所在。这件事教给我们的无非就是不是所有的事都要围着你转,如果你是玻璃心,有人会利用这一点。
9 [' X1 s: `, G5 k3 @# j16.Stop Talking 不要再说话了
8 C* O6 j! P3 HSometimes it’s best to just STFU –especially in relationships. I can’t even count how many times I created anissue that didn’t need to be an issue simply because I opened my mouth. Even ifwhat you want to say is important, just shut up and ride it out. You can saymore with your actions than words, and you can’t listen when you’re talking., s' U% U  ^5 F5 f) \
7 a; P' X. L7 @# V1 U17.Just Stop, and Breathe… 停一下,深呼吸吧8 t5 w* |7 Q3 J% S/ p* E+ @3 ?, g
No matter what you’re doing in life or howyour day is going, there’s always room to just stop for a moment and justbreathe. Try it right now to celebrate getting through this list of everythingyou’re doing wrong.7 ^- a# J! v# V+ H8 l; l/ I: K
无论你现在在干什么,这一天过得怎么样,你都需要好好停一下深呼吸。不如现在就歇一歇,犒赏自己总算挺过了一些错事。! E$ }2 m9 _2 v

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