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歪国人眼里:中国妇女如何在结婚问题上感受压力

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https://www.youtube.com/user/singaporeskii?nohtml5=False 制作了一个视频,关于中国妇女如何在结婚问题上感受压力, 以及剩女的实际意思:一个名词来说明女人在25岁后依旧单身。
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In Chinese, “Sheng Nu” translates to “leftover woman.”


: n6 m# @/ F! S4 T6 ]: M5 R4 K对于许多女性来说,在中国是一个“剩女”会让成为你谈话的主题,有时甚至嘲笑。& a0 S  h0 N* p" r' e

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年轻女性被教导要孝敬父母的意愿,尽早发现一个很好的对象。
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如果他们没有在“正确”的年龄,父母和家人不断地羞辱他们为它结婚。. v- h' _. F! \2 O; A: H% m

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“人们认为,在中国社会,未婚女子是不完整的。”& j4 ~) j9 Z# m. w  G! g9 R

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5 ~9 i/ F/ g) q+ ]2 M8 f“婚姻市场”是一个地方,父母去张贴他们的儿子“和女儿的个人资料,希望能找到一个结婚对象4 I6 i3 T/ R. N  Q, Z% v. q1 j

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j列表,如年龄,职业,收入信息,以及什么类型的财产的潜在收购者拥有。 “这就像你卖你的女儿。”
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  t  T6 V5 c6 j8 mIn Chinese culture, respecting your parents’ wishes is one of the most important lessons children are taught. And for many parents, they met their S.O. through an arranged marriage, normalizing the concept for them.
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One mother said that while her daughter had a “great personality,” she was “just average looking…”. h% l/ ~5 S7 C+ d6 C; A
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& Q7 V8 O- M4 B- U: X…and she attributed her “leftover” status to her daughter’s looks.
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$ y/ V% t  O- l8 W( `' UMany unmarried women feel an overwhelming sense of guilt for remaining single.
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And though they yearn for real love, the pressure they face from their families and culture makes deciding to wait for a genuine connection difficult.
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5 R' D- A; n8 f% b8 KSo, a few of the women decided to go back to the marriage market — not to make a profile for themselves, but to leave their parents a message.
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+ Z1 X3 L( b: G9 D“Even if I’m alone, I will be happy, confident, and have a good life.”" A8 Z  B( n- D. c2 p- u* Q
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1 [9 q2 ~8 @* t# K2 R“As opposed to the term ‘leftover woman,’ I have a great career and there is another term called ‘power woman.’”7 y7 \+ {$ n: i# x

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And luckily, many of the parents were receptive to their daughters’ messages. As this mother said, “My daughter is beautiful. Leftover women should be proud.”
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Because being a single, independent woman does not make you “leftover.” It’s makes you strong, beautiful, and confident in your own right.
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